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Clutter Blocks Your Dreams

What’s standing in the way of bringing your dreams into your reality? What’s keeping you from leaning into those secret desires? What’s clutteryclosetstopping you from taking that next baby step towards the kind of daily life you crave?

What if I told you one of the things in the way of your dreams was clutter?

Now, now. I see you rolling your eyes there. And muttering to yourself that I’m not working with a full deck of cards today as I write.

From the depths of my heart, I share this little nugget of wisdom with you because for most of my life, I allowed all kinds of clutter to stop me from moving forward into the kind of life I desired. The kind of nourishing daily life each and every one of us deserves.

Clutter comes in many forms. Mental clutter. Calendar clutter. Spiritual clutter. And, of course, physical clutter.

The mountains of laundry that need to be washed or folded. The stacks and stacks of books we’re going to read so that we can find the magic solution to fixing our lives. The piles of shoes at the door and the unwearable clothes crowding our closets crowd us from peaceful entry and exit into our own lives.

We try to fill the void in our lives with stuff. We attempt to buy our way to a perfect life, believing that if we have the right clothes or shoes or living room couch, our lives will magically be on track. We “treat” ourselves to a new sweater, new towels, or new shoes to soothe our loneliness. We seek to purchase forgiveness. We hope that by buying a loved one a splendid present, we will get them to love us more.

The truth about clutter is this: it distracts us. It pulls our attention away from our real desires. It draws our focus to the physical world, not our internal world.

You don’t have to be living in hoarder level clutter for physical clutter to get in the way of the kind of life you desire.

The over-stuffed closet keeps you from easily and quickly preparing yourself to face the world. Instead of lifting you up, it drags you down. The linen closet full of ratty towels and sheets you don’t ever use distracts you from creating who you desire to be every damned time you open the door. And those boxes of “memories” stacked in the attic or basement or under your bed are what you really think about when you try to envision how a nourishing life would be.

The hidden clutter calls to us, reminding us of past failures at creating a perfect life. Clutter blocks your dreams.

When I was a little girl, I was always getting in trouble for having a messy room. No matter where you turned, my spaces were filled. Under the bed were boxes with toys. My dresser drawers were stuffed to the gills with nightgowns, t-shirts, and shorts. My bookshelves were double stacked with books. My desk drawers were filled with papers. My closet was jammed with clothes and toys. One of the reasons my room was always messy was I had way too much stuff.

My mother would berate me for my messiness, and the next day buy me a new Barbie or several outfits.

And I carried that way of living forward when I married and moved into my own home.

I pretended to the outside world that my life was perfect all those years, but inside I was lonely and sad. One of the reasons the outside-in-view of my White Picket Fence life looked so perfect is that my house was filled with all kinds of dishes, linens, towels, books, DVDs, shoes, and clothes.

I filled every space to overflowing in hopes that I would finally feel loved.  I hoped that an abundance of physical stuff would equate an abundance of positive emotions. I hoped that if I bought just the right set of dishes, my husband would enjoy what I cooked (he never liked my cooking). I filled my closets with clothes and linens and books, but never found satisfaction. I distracted myself from the fact that my marriage was emotionally barren (and emotionally abusive) by filling up my bookshelves and showering my children with toys and clothes.

When we divorced, he took his clothes and a few pieces of furniture. He left me with most of the furniture, dishes, and knick knacks so he could start fresh. I even helped him set up his apartment with new furniture.  In those first few weekends alone, when the girls went to his place, I came to realize that I couldn’t move forward when I was buried under mountains of worn out furniture and broken dreams.

I made the connection that I was never able to buy enough soft linens or pretty clothes to sooth the aching isolation I felt from myself during those years. I finally began to feel the stirrings of a life that felt supportive when I started clearing my spaces.

As I rid my closet of clothes that didn’t fit or I didn’t love, the sexiest and sassiest version of who I was born to be emerged. As I hauled broken furniture to the curb, my dreams began to come together.

When I started clearing out the physical stuff that was in my way, I realized that I had control of my own life. The way to usher my dreams into my reality was to take my own happiness by the horns and stop filling my environment with crap I didn’t love.

Then, I did something almost unimaginable. When I moved to Ohio to merge my life with JB, I packed only what would fit in my car and left all the shattered memories and “should haves” behind. I took the most important treasure, though: my sense of true self wrapped up in the knowledge that if I wanted to love my life, I needed to cultivate the kind of environment that helped me thrive.

The attitude I brought to Ohio with me was to only bring into our home what we loved. Our lower floor stayed empty for the first year here as we waited to find furniture that we loved and would support our lifestyle. Our entry hall was barren for three years until we found just the right piece to bring a sense of openness and welcome to entering our home.

Though I joke about it with friends, when I’m feeling blocked or burned out, the first thing I do is clear off my desk and clean the kitchen.

I’d never suggest to you that if you want to create a life you love, that you should leave everything behind and start fresh. However, I am going to tell you from experience that if you want a daily life that feels loving, supportive, and nourishing, the first place to look is around you.

Our most important resource is our precious attention and focus. When it comes to ushering your dreams out of your mind and into your everyday life, you need that attention to go towards yourself and your goals, not on the stacks and piles and overstuffed closets and drawers. Clutter blocks your dreams.

You deserve to live in a home that allows you to feel nourished. You deserve to feel loved exactly as you are. You are worthy of allowing your secret desires to be born into the world.  You deserve to be in a home that allows you to thrive. You shouldn’t have to simply attempt to survive. Remember that all sizes of clutter can shift your focus away from what matters – you and your dreams. Please, darling, allow the seeds of your desires to blossom. Don’t allow your clutter to keep you from finding your happiness.

If you need a little help clearing your clutter (both big and small), allow me to help you. 30 Days to Clarity: Clutter Busting will gently and lovingly help you clear your physical spaces.

 

Getting clear in your life by dealing with your physical clutter (big clutter and small clutter) will allow you to direct your precious energy towards creating the clear path to living your best possible life.Want more details? Click here for the 411.

2015 Course Dates:

  • Sunday, May 11, 2015 to Tuesday, June 10, 2015
  • Sunday, October 25, 2015 to Tuesday, November 24, 2015

Clutter Busting Edition – Course Investment: $39




 

Don’t Let Clutter Keep You From Moving Forward

One of the things that makes me happy is to be able to welcome a guest into our home. Whether it’s for a cup of coffee and some cake, a shared meal, or an overnight stay, I love being able to connect face-to-face with people I care about.

5290e95b21cb8f31c380c72b11a5a19cI’m an extrovert and it feeds my energy and my spirit to be with others.

In the not too distant past, an impromptu visitor would have meant me rushing around like a mad woman and stuffing things under beds and in closets (or hiding in the bedroom pretending I wasn’t home). And an overnight visitor would have meant a week of preparation.

Why? Because of clutter.  Yep. You read that right. My clutter blocked me from not only my need to be with others but negated one of my core values: connection.

So, a little bit of honesty: it was when I begin shedding stuff that I realized that it was in the way of me moving forward in my life.

Anyone walking into my house today would never guess that I’m a reformed clutter-holic.

You might get a glimpse of my spreadsheets or take one of my eClasses and assume that I am one of those Born Organized people. Oh, no, kitten, perish that thought! I may be logical, but I am not naturally neat or organized.

It was a skill I had to learn. And, frankly, it’s something I have to regularly tend to as part of the art of living.

When I tell you that clutter blocks you from conscious living, it isn’t because I just understand the concepts around your physical environment and stuff. No, darling, I learned the hard way that clutter of all sizes can block you from achieving your dreams.

Want to create a life you love? Clear the clutter blocking your path (Click to Tweet This).

Here’s some hard truth about clutter:

  • It’s impossible to organize too much stuff. Though I’ve never been fond of hearing this from those Born Organized folks, the fact of the matter is that everything needs to have a place.
  • No amount of stuff is going to make you feel happy or worthy. Sure, you may feel a little excited when you purchase that new pair of shoes, that thirtieth black sweater, or that cute dog bookend, but is it just going to be something you don’t wear or have to dust?
  • If you’re simply trying to survive and living on auto-pilot, you don’t realize how much your stuff is blocking you from stepping up in your own life.
  • Don’t keep things around you that make you feel guilty or shamed. I’m talking those ugly dishes from your Aunt Mildred, those exercise videos that you’ve watched once, and that pile of books you “should” read.
  • If your clothes don’t emulate how you want to feel, then why keep them? There’s no sense in shaming yourself with clothes that are too small or you paid too much for. Cut your losses and send your shame packing (or to Goodwill). Allow the things that don’t make YOU feel fabulous wearing  to bless someone else.
  • You deserve sacred space in your home. If you’re living in a messy environment, it’s hard to think or dream when you’re distracted. Choose one area of the house for yourself and clear it out. Not sure where to start? Start with your bedroom so that you can get better sleep!
  • Ditch anything that doesn’t match your soul’s journey. If you don’t love it or use it, it goes. If it doesn’t enliven or empower you to live all out, trash it.
  • Pockets of clutter can be as distracting as big piles. I’m talking about those junk drawers, your desk, and your purse. If you need a pen, your keys or a pair of scissors, having to hunt for them shifts your focus.

Want to become smitten with yourself? Get rid of everything that isn’t congruent with who you are and who you want to be. Want to focus on your goals? Get rid of the distractions and provide yourself with clear spaces so you can think. Want to become enchanted with your life? Begin with clearing what’s in the way.

Darling, if you want to create a daily life that you love, then you owe it to yourself to live an environment that encourages you to become besotted with the art of living.

Don’t buy into the belief that just because you weren’t born organized that you don’t deserve to live a beautiful life.

Want some help? Check out my Clutter Busting course. This is a 30-day email course that walks you through clearing physical clutter in your home.

How 30 Days to Clarity: Clutter Busting Works

I created the Clutter Busting Course to help you slowly clear your physical spaces. Each day of the class, an email will be delivered each day to your inbox with a task for the day to help you shed physical clutter. Each task will take less than 30 minutes – some will take less than five.

  • With each daily email, you’ll begin to create an environment that is rich and supportive of your dreams.
  • I’ll also be sharing some tips for getting out of the house each morning with less drama.
  • There will be bonus tips on prepping your home for the holidays – and guests!
  • And we’ll have tips, too, on how to set up a system so that you won’t miss important bills.

Getting clear in your life by dealing with your physical clutter (big clutter and small clutter) will allow you to direct your precious energy towards creating the clear path to living your best possible life.

As a bonus, you participate at no additional cost every time Clutter Busting runs this year. Want more details? Click here for the 411.

2015 Course Dates:

  • Sunday, May 11, 2015 to Tuesday, June 10, 2015
  • Sunday, October 25, 2015 to Tuesday, November 24, 2015

Clutter Busting Edition – Course Investment: $39




You Don’t Have to Be Born Organized

There are also vases of fresh flowers throughout the house, bringing beauty into the house. On my list this week is to wash the windows in the 45c27c102f7c0875b3abd802a34f10a9kitchen and deck.

But don’t let me lead you into believing that my home is perfection. Nope. Hidden here and there are little pockets of clutter.

Earlier this week, I was putting away the dishes and kinda cringed when I opened the silverware drawer. And double cringed when I opened the this-is-where-my-kitchen-gadgets-live drawer.  I opened every drawer in the kitchen to see if perhaps one of them was neat and tidy to discover that, in fact, they were not. Oops.

One of the reasons I created my Clutter Busting classes a couple of years ago is because I know that even the most reformed clutter-bugs go through periods of making little (and big) messes.

My natural tendency is to toss everything not in the creative bubble somewhere out of the bubble, which usually means I find myself at the end of a launch or a completion of a project with little clutter pockets. It manifests in the kitchen with the mindless putting away of things. It manifests in the office with piles of papers to be filed and books to be put away. It manifests in the living room with magazines to be read and library books to be returned.

I’ve come to accept that it’s a part of who I am. I focus on a project to the nth degree and do my best to keep up the other areas of my life afloat. Sometimes,  I do an amazing job at keeping all the ball in my life in the air. Sometimes, I drop a few of those balls (purposely) because, baby, you cannot sanely do everything all the time.

No, darling, there are times when tiny areas of life deserve your full time devotion.

I used to berate myself for being messy. I’d say all kinds of mean things in my head about my inability to stay organized. I’d be lost in my creative bliss, open a drawer to find the scissors, and then stress out because I’d discovered hard evidence that anyone who walked into my house would SEE that I was a horrible person because I couldn’t keep things tidy.

THEN, the old me, upon discovery of this “fact”, would rush around like a crazy person trying to hide all the evidence of my imperfection. I’d flat out exhaust myself trying to organize every drawer and clear every surface, often winding up in angry tears at my inadequacies to keep house.

Wow! That wasn’t a very nice dialogue or action plan.

So, let me share with you what happens now.

  • I have accepted that I am who I am. I was not “born organized”, so I have to have systems in place. This includes things like making the bed each morning, not going to bed with dishes in the sink, and straightening my desk at the end of the day.
  • I have come to understand and accept that sometimes, my systems get out of whack. That doesn’t mean I’m failing or am a horrible person, it just means my energy is going towards something else.
  • Life is messy. It’s why the good people at Method created their lovely Lavender spray.
  • As soon as I realize I’m out of whack, I set a timer for 15 minutes and spend that time bringing order to ONE space. One single flat surface or one single drawer.
  • When things have gotten way out of whack, I create a plan. On paper. I choose a room a day to spend time in and tackle the spaces in 10 minute intervals (no more than three of them!).  I throw away or recycle as much as I can as I go. Within a week of doing this, inevitably I feel lighter.

I know it sounds simplistic, that tiny doses can bring me back to looking and feeling organized, but it works.

The purest truth I can share with you, though,  is that my soul finds it’s deepest peace when my physical world is neat and orderly. Clutter in any form – the messy drawers, the piles of paper, unfolded laundry, over-scheduled calendars, relationships that aren’t fulfilling – robs your soul of that peace.

Clutter, in fact, distracts each and every one of us from creating what we are meant to create and being who we are born to be. In order to be at our very best, we not only crave order, we need it.

It doesn’t have to be that way, darling. Your clutter doesn’t mean that you aren’t worthy of being loved and accepted for who you are. Your clutter is a bi-product of a creative life. And that’s ok. I promise you, though, that if you get your clutter tamed, you will create more work from a deeper sense of peace.

It may feel daunting to even contemplate an uncluttered existence, but if I can do it, I have faith that you can, too. It’s challenging to life your best life when you are surrounded by too much stuff.  It’s also overwhelming and can be challenging as to where to start.

What if I could help you? I may not be able to come over and help you sort through your closet, but I can be there in spirit.   Check out:  30 Days to Clarity:  Clutter Busting Edition.

If you need a little help clearing your clutter (both big and small), allow me to help you. 30 Days to Clarity: Clutter Busting is a loving and gentle way to clear your clutter.

How 30 Days to Clarity: Clutter Busting Works

Each day of the class, an email will be delivered each day to your inbox with a task for the day to help you shed physical clutter. Each task will take less than 30 minutes – some will take less than five.

  • With each daily email, you’ll begin to create an environment that is rich and supportive of your dreams.
  • I’ll also be sharing some tips for getting out of the house each morning with less drama.
  • There will be bonus tips on prepping your home for the holidays – and guests!
  • And we’ll have tips, too, on how to set up a system so that you won’t miss important bills.

Getting clear in your life by dealing with your physical clutter (big clutter and small clutter) will allow you to direct your precious energy towards creating the clear path to living your best possible life.

As a bonus, you participate at no additional cost every time Clutter Busting runs this year. Want more details? Click here for the 411.

2015 Course Dates:

  • Sunday, May 11, 2015 to Tuesday, June 10, 2015
  • Sunday, October 25, 2015 to Tuesday, November 24, 2015

Clutter Busting Edition – Course Investment: $39




Don’t Let Clutter Blocks You From Conscious Living

One of the things that makes me happy is to be able to welcome a guest into our home. Whether it’s for a cup of coffee and some sadcluttercake, a shared meal, or an overnight stay, I love being able to connect face-to-face with people I care about.

I’m an extrovert and it feeds my energy and my spirit to be with others.

In the not too distant past, an impromptu visitor would have meant me rushing around like a mad woman and stuffing things under beds and in closets (or hiding in the bedroom pretending I wasn’t home). And an overnight visitor would have meant a week of preparation.

Why? Because of clutter.  Yep. You read that right. My clutter blocked me from not only my need to be with others but negated one of my core values: connection.

So, a little bit of honesty: it was when I begin shedding stuff that I realized that it was in the way of me moving forward in my life.

Anyone walking into my house today would never guess that I’m a reformed clutter-holic.

You might get a glimpse of my spreadsheets or take one of my eClasses and assume that I am one of those Born Organized people. Oh, no, kitten, perish that thought! I may be logical, but I am not naturally neat or organized.

It was a skill I had to learn. And, frankly, it’s something I have to regularly tend to as part of the art of living.

When I tell you that clutter blocks you from conscious living, it isn’t because I just understand the concepts around your physical environment and stuff. No, darling, I learned the hard way that clutter of all sizes can block you from achieving your dreams.

Want to create a life you love? Clear the clutter blocking your path (Click to Tweet This).

Here’s some hard truth about clutter:

  • It’s impossible to organize too much stuff. Though I’ve never been fond of hearing this from those Born Organized folks, the fact of the matter is that everything needs to have a place.
  • No amount of stuff is going to make you feel happy or worthy. Sure, you may feel a little excited when you purchase that new pair of shoes, that thirtieth black sweater, or that cute dog bookend, but is it just going to be something you don’t wear or have to dust?
  • If you’re simply trying to survive and living on auto-pilot, you don’t realize how much your stuff is blocking you from stepping up in your own life.
  • Don’t keep things around you that make you feel guilty or shamed. I’m talking those ugly dishes from your Aunt Mildred, those exercise videos that you’ve watched once, and that pile of books you “should” read.
  • If your clothes don’t emulate how you want to feel, then why keep them? There’s no sense in shaming yourself with clothes that are too small or you paid too much for. Cut your losses and send your shame packing (or to Goodwill). Allow the things that don’t make YOU feel fabulous wearing  to bless someone else.
  • You deserve sacred space in your home. If you’re living in a messy environment, it’s hard to think or dream when you’re distracted. Choose one area of the house for yourself and clear it out. Not sure where to start? Start with your bedroom so that you can get better sleep!
  • Ditch anything that doesn’t match your soul’s journey. If you don’t love it or use it, it goes. If it doesn’t enliven or empower you to live all out, trash it.
  • Pockets of clutter can be as distracting as big piles. I’m talking about those junk drawers, your desk, and your purse. If you need a pen, your keys or a pair of scissors, having to hunt for them shifts your focus.

Want to become smitten with yourself? Get rid of everything that isn’t congruent with who you are and who you want to be.

Want to focus on your goals? Get rid of the distractions and provide yourself with clear spaces so you can think.

Want to become enchanted with your life? Begin with clearing what’s in the way.

Darling, if you want to create a daily life that you love, then you owe it to yourself to live an environment that encourages you to become besotted with the art of living.

Don’t buy into the belief that just because you weren’t born organized that you don’t deserve to live a beautiful life.

How 30 Days to Clarity: Clutter Busting Works

I created the Clutter Busting Course to help you slowly clear your physical spaces. Each day of the class, an email will be delivered each day to your inbox with a task for the day to help you shed physical clutter. Each task will take less than 30 minutes – some will take less than five.

  • With each daily email, you’ll begin to create an environment that is rich and supportive of your dreams.
  • I’ll also be sharing some tips for getting out of the house each morning with less drama.
  • There will be bonus tips on prepping your home for the holidays – and guests!
  • And we’ll have tips, too, on how to set up a system so that you won’t miss important bills.

No matter how organized – or disorganized – you may be feeling now, by the end of the course, you’ll feel worlds lighter. It also promises to be a fun, effective and affordable way to make space in your life for what matters most.
Getting clear in your life by dealing with your physical clutter (big clutter and small clutter) will allow you to direct your precious energy towards creating the clear path to living your best possible life.

As a bonus, you participate at no additional cost every time Clutter Busting runs this year. Want more details? Click here for the 411.

2015 Course Dates:

  • Sunday, May 11, 2015 to Tuesday, June 10, 2015
  • Sunday, October 25, 2015 to Tuesday, November 24, 2015

Clutter Busting Edition – Course Investment: $39




Don’t Let Guilt Bury You: 60 Types Clutter You Can Ditch

Years ago, I made the mistake of believing that if I surrounded myself with enough stuff, it would make me feel loved, safe or worthy.

I had grown up with the lesson that a new book or a new outfit was the solution to sadness.  I tried to soothe the fact that my (then) boxeshusband was rarely home by buying knick knacks and linens.  I tried to assuage the ache of loneliness by filling it with sweaters and books.  I showered my kids with over-abundant amounts of videos and toys to cover the fact that their father would rather spend time at the gym than playing with his kids.

Needless to say, the clutter I tried to fill emotional holes with caused additional fights in an already fragile relationship.

I  was exhausted and thought that if I had just the right clothes or make-up, it would make me feel more attractive and vibrant.  What I discovered, though, that hanging onto things I didn’t need, didn’t like, or didn’t use actually drained my energy.

What about you, darling?  Have you been filling your space with stuff to make yourself feel better?  Do your surroundings enhance your life or make you feel stressed?  Is your wardrobe made up of tasteful pieces that you will wear for seasons to come or is it crammed with items you rarely wear?

Don’t get me wrong.  I believe it’s important to surround yourself with items that make you love your life.  Just don’t surround yourself with stuff in order to fill a lack of love for yourself or your life.

There are all kinds of excuses for not getting rid of that china or keeping that hideous yellow dress.  But the fact of the matter is, we keep things for two reasons – because we love them or because we fear we will feel guilty or hurt someone’s feelings if we ditch it.

Don’t allow guilt to keep you buried in stuff you don’t need.  In fact, here are sixty types of clutter you can ditch today:

  1. Blue Eyeshadow.  We aren’t in high school anymore.
  2. Clothes that you are hanging onto because they may come back in style. If you wore it the first time around, you probably shouldn’t wear it the second time around.
  3. Every free “gift with purchase” cosmetic case
  4. Every single lipstick color you bought on a whim that you hate.
  5. Lotions and potions that you don’t like, didn’t work, or smell icky.
  6. Old blankets and linens you keep in case you suddenly have 27 sleepover guests.
  7. Shoes that hurt your feet.
  8. Shoes you haven’t worn in years.
  9. Single Earrings.
  10. Socks without partners.
  11. Underwear that is stained or has holes in it.
  12. All your class notes from college.
  13. College text books.
  14. Credit Card statements or other documents you are keeping for tax purposes.  Shred anything  dated prior to 2005.
  15. The stacks of magazines you swear you’ll re-read.
  16. Those books that you keep saying you will read.  But only keep on your bookshelf because they make you look “smart”.
  17. Those magazines that you are keeping because of all the great recipes you plan to cut out (cut out the recipe, and recycle the rest)
  18. Oh, and speaking of magazines, either send the   you want to send to friends or save for yourself or recycle them already.
  19. All the cross-stitch, knitting, or sewing projects you never finished. Just THINK of all the extra creative energy you’ll have once you’ve let those go.
  20. All those scrapbooking supplies. Because deep down you know you the idea of making a scrapbook makes you cranky.
  21. Half-full cans of paint.  If you are keeping them simply to record the paint color, take a photo and create a file on your hardrive labeled “house”.
  22. Those craft supplies you have set aside for when you have time to get crafty!
  23. CD’s you haven’t listened to in three years or more.
  24. Headsets that no longer work.  Or those free airline headsets that hurt your ears.
  25. Lamps, toasters, blenders, coffeemakers that no longer work.
  26. Old computers.
  27. 3 ½ inch floppy disks.  (Don’t tell me you still have 5 ¼ floppy disks, too…)
  28. Old stereo, video, or computer wires. If your hubby doesn’t want you to trash them, put them in a bin labeled “Random Cables”  with the DATE.  After a year, take ‘em to Best Buy.
  29. Old stereos.
  30. Old VHS movies If they’re really that important to you, get them in DVD.  Better yet, borrow them from the library.
  31. Record albums. And don’t spend your extra hours in a day trying to figure out if someone will buy them. Really. They won’t.
  32. Remote controls that don’t remotely control anything you still own.
  33. The boxes of cassettes you’ve been meaning to transfer to CD’s.
  34. The stationary bike that got even more stationary after you got it
  35. Unlabeled VHS tapes. And don’t waste your time watching them just in case.
  36. Your last four cell phones and all their chargers and blue teeth.
  37. Any glassware or dinnerware that is a “memorabilia” item from proms or sororities or sports events.  Do we really need Class of 1986 Champagne glasses?
  38. Empty butter dishes.  Invest in some inexpensive GLAD containers or Tupperware.
  39. Heirloom dishes you will never use
  40. The “good silver” you don’t use that was passed down to you.
  41. The bread maker. Seriously. When was the last time you made bread?
  42. Tupperware containers without lids
  43. Vases you don’t love or use.
  44. Old keys that open some door somewhere in the past.
  45. Anything that makes you say, “But I got such a good price on it!”
  46. Anything that you are hanging on to because you paid a lot of money for it.
  47. Broken toys that you plan to fix
  48. The idea that you have to save every piece of your children’s artwork and school work because it might mean you don’t love them if you don’t.  Save less than a dozen and photograph the rest!
  49. Candles you won’t burn because they stink.
  50. Figurines gathering dust.
  51. Any kind of collectable you are hanging onto because it might one day be “valuable”
  52. Gifts you never liked.
  53. House plants you no longer love.
  54. Broken furniture.
  55. Picture frames you don’t love or use.
  56. The doilies that your Aunt Lilly crocheted that were handed down to you.  Doilies just gather dust….and do we really need them anymore? (Ditto with the afghan on the back of the couch!)
  57. All the hotel key cards you’ve brought home with you.
  58. All the hotel soaps that you took with you. (And stop taking them. You’ve got plenty of soap!  Give ‘em to a local homeless shelter)
  59. Suitcases you don’t use.
  60. The belief that you only have to go through the de-cluttering process once and won’t ever have to do it again.

Darling, you have so many gifts to share with the world.  You have the opportunity to create a life you are head-over-heels in love with.  Don’t allow clutter to drain your precious focus and attention!

I know it can feel overwhelming.  The biggest challenge can be where to start. What if I could help?

I may not be able to come over and help you sort through your closet, but I can be there in spirit. 

30 Days to Clarity:  Clutter Busting Edition may be the answer you need .  What better way to move toward the fall with a lighter heart and clearer vision of what you want in your beautiful life than to clear out the clutter that’s distracting you?

Tell me, darling: what one area of your world can you clear to make room for a life you love? Want more details? Click here for the 411.

2015 Course Dates:

  • Sunday, May 11, 2015 to Tuesday, June 10, 2015
  • Sunday, October 25, 2015 to Tuesday, November 24, 2015

Clutter Busting Edition – Course Investment: $39




Love Your Life: Clear Your Path

Darling, what do you want? What gifts and talents do you want to share with the world? What do you need to lean into in order to fall head over heels in love with your life?

If you’re like many, the answer to this question is “I don’t know.”

womanshoeshoppingI’m going to let you in on a little secret: your heart of hearts already knows what you want. The thing is, if you’ve stuffed down your desires with thoughts like “I don’t deserve it” or “that’s impractical” or “later” or “I should be doing” and “I should want” …then it’s possible your heart is just buried under layers and layers of clutter.

You see, what’s often happening is that our hearts, minds, and souls are not in agreement about what we need in order to feel as if we’re on the right path. Then our minds take over and begin stuffing our worlds with shadow desires. We feel compelled to fill our lives with something.

We feel like something is missing, so we get a new pair of shoes, and soon we discover we’ve filled our closets with clothes and shoes we will never wear. We comfort ourselves with food. We surround ourselves and fill our spaces with knick knacks to fill the holes our heart has.

We hear the faint whispers of our heart, but don’t believe what our heart is saying, so we fill our schedules to the brim with activities, effectively quieting our heart because we find ourselves too exhausted to listen.

We can’t pinpoint what our next step is, so we look to the external world for what others are doing, and mimicking their steps as a semblance of guidance. Only to ask ourselves, “Now what?”

“In order to seek one’s own direction, one must simplify the mechanics of ordinary, everyday life.” ~ Plato

Let me tell you something, kitten: if you’ve been surrounding yourself with stuff in order to fill the longings of your soul, yet find yourself barely liking – let along loving – your life, then darling, it’s time.

Time to peel away the layers of clutter that have silenced the voices of your heart.

The first step for many of us is to begin clearing the physical clutter from our worlds. I know it sounds simplistic. How is cleaning your closet and getting rid of those dishes you despise going to help you lean into a life you love?

It’s all about the energy, baby!

You see, everything has energy. From the cup from which we drink our coffee to the outfit we wear to work to our beautifully made bed. Yep, even the stack of neatly folded laundry has energy. We need the energy in our lives to focus on our work, for our dreams, for challenges and for staying healthy.

Every time we encounter something in our world that is undone, incomplete, or overdue, our energy to focus on what matters the most is drained.

Every time you have to push aside the clothes in your closet that you don’t like to find something to wear, you lose energy. Every time you sift through a stack of papers on your desk, you lose energy. And, yes. Those dirty dishes in the sink, the crud on your refrigerator shelves, and that pile of magazines on your coffee table all drain your focus and that precious energy of yours.

Every time you open a drawer and have to look for something, your mind refocuses. It turns to the task of finding scissors and distracts you from writing that chapter of your book, that blog post, that sales letter or the perfect line of a song.

And there’s more than energy at work.

You see, everything has our thoughts and emotions embedded within it. Old furniture we don’t love, clothes we don’t wear, and china we hate is no exception to this.

When we hold onto clutter, we’re telling our subconscious minds that our stuff is more important than our true desires.

If you believe that the solution to creating a life you love is to change your wardrobe, buy a new house, or lose 20 pounds, then let me be frank with you, my dear: Creating a life you love will be clearer when you first remove what’s blocking the road.

When you remove those blocks, then the life force, creativity, and abundance can flow freely to you and through you. Because, darling before you add anything it’s critical to get crystal clear about what you want.

If you want to begin to peel away the layers of clutter that have hardened your mind’s ears to the voice of your heart but don’t know where to begin, I’d be honored for you to join me for 30 Days to Clarity: Clutter Busting edition. We’ll get things streamlined, de-cluttered, and organized in small, steady doses.

Darling, life is short and you deserve to spend it marching along the path to loving your life, not tripping over a pile of shoes.


Getting clear in your life by dealing with your physical clutter (big clutter and small clutter) will allow you to direct your precious energy towards creating the clear path to living your best possible life.

As a bonus, you participate at no additional cost every time Clutter Busting runs this year. Want more details? Click here for the 411.

2015 Course Dates:

  • Sunday, May 11, 2015 to Tuesday, June 10, 2015
  • Sunday, October 25, 2015 to Tuesday, November 24, 2015

Clutter Busting Edition – Course Investment: $39




Fall in Love Your Life: Clear Your Clutter

I used to live a horribly cluttered life. No, not “hoarders” level, but any guest visit was often preceded by a lot of rushing around , stashing stuff in closets and under beds, and hiding all those extra pans in the oven. It wasn’t rubberglovesoptionalthat the house wasn’t clean – I mopped and dusted and vacuumed on a regular basis. The honest-to- goodness truth was there was just too much stuff.

See, I had grown up with the lesson that a new book or a new outfit was the solution to sadness. I tried to soothe the fact that my (then) husband was rarely home by buying knick knacks and linens. I tried to fill the ache of loneliness by filling it with sweaters and books. I showered my kids with over-abundant amounts of videos and toys to cover the fact that their father would rather spend time at the gym than hanging out with the family.

Needless to say, the clutter I tried to fill emotional holes with caused additional fights in an already fragile relationship.

As I’ve shared before, we finally ended the 17 ½ year marriage. He dealt with the clutter of our relationship by buying new furniture and leaving 95% of the household belongings with me and the kids. I dealt with clutter by enlisting a friend over a long weekend and literally cleaning house – stained and broken furniture, clothes that didn’t fit, and other items I didn’t utterly love sat in a giant pile on the curb awaiting the trash truck.

I wondered how I could have believed that the piles of possessions could fix my marriage or make me feel happy or secure. It was in those moments, after shedding volumes of things, I began to discover that clearing physical clutter would set me on a path to living a live I could love.

My heart soared for I had rediscovered faith in myself, not possessions.

My battle with clutter has continued since my divorce. I discovered that when my schedule was more cluttered, my world followed suit in little piles of clutter in drawers and on nightstands. (I kept it under control by hiring household help.) And then I spent almost 3 years living out of suitcases. Spending more time in hotels than at home is a sure-fire way to wade efficiently through collections of suits and shoes.

And then, life events inspired me to take a harder look at my stuff.

My mother died in June 2010. When my sister and I helped our father clean out Mom’s closet, we ended up with twelve 50-gallon trash bags full of clothing, shoes, belts and handbags. Many of the clothes still had the price tags on them. Lots of the shoes were unworn.

I was saddened at the volume of stuff. My mother was an unhappy woman and no matter how many new clothes and pretty shoes she had, she couldn’t find satisfaction in life.

In December of 2010, I sold my house in Texas and moved to Ohio. Despite massive de-cluttering since my divorce in 2004, I realized that there wasn’t a lot that I loved enough to transport 1000 miles.

JB and I created a life together by combining what I loved enough to bring to Ohio with what he had brought here months before. Over the last two years, we’ve slowly added pieces of furniture that we both love and have begun to fill blank walls with art that has meaning by framing photos we took while traveling.

I believe it’s important to surround yourself with items that make you love your life. Don’t surround yourself with stuff in order to fill a lack of love for yourself or your life.

These days, I only have small skirmishes with clutter. The search for scissors and pens in the kitchen junk drawer, the search for one particular shirt in a sea of clothes, or the search for the baking powder in the pantry are typical of where my clutter forms. But to keep my skirmishes from expanding into a full out war again, I regularly attack my clutter by creating regular tasks on my calendar to organize my pantry, closets, and desk.

I’ve learned that by clearing my spaces of clutter, I’m better able to think and dream. I’ve learned that by having less, I actually have more. I’ve learned that in order for there to be space for achieving bigger and creating a life where you love the day-today, you have to clear out the stuff that isn’t enhancing your world.

What about you?

Have you been filling your space with stuff to make yourself feel better? Do your surroundings enhance your life or make you feel stressed? Is your wardrobe made up of tasteful pieces that you will wear for seasons to come or is it crammed with items you rarely wear?

Darling, you have so many gifts to share with the world. You have the opportunity to create a life you are head-over-heels in love with.

You may just need to dig it out under the things you’ve got covering it up!

Clearing clutter out of your physical space is a step towards getting clearer about your purpose in life. I know it can feel overwhelming. The biggest challenge can be where to start.

What if I could help?

I may not be able to come over and help you sort through your closet, but I can be there in spirit with my 30 days to Clarity: Clutter Busting eCourse.

Getting clear in your life by dealing with your physical clutter (big clutter and small clutter) will allow you to direct your precious energy towards creating the clear path to living your best possible life.

As a bonus, you participate at no additional cost every time Clutter Busting runs this year. Want more details? Click here for the 411.

2015 Course Dates:

  • Sunday, May 11, 2015 to Tuesday, June 10, 2015
  • Sunday, October 25, 2015 to Tuesday, November 24, 2015

Clutter Busting Edition – Course Investment: $39




 

Make Life Blossom

20 Spectacular Reasons to Get Organized, Toss Clutter & Spring Clean

Spring has officially arrived.

I’m hearing tales from friends all over the US that daffodils have begun to poke their heads up and that spring showers (and storms) have begun flowergardeningto bring needed moisture for the growth of later spring blooms. In the first few weeks of spring, I find myself embracing fresh breezes, admiring early and delicate blooms, and longing for the first local asparagus.

At home, you’ll find me embracing some true spring rituals. Opening the windows to allow fresh air to bathe the house with the freshness of spring as it replaces the cooped up smells of winter. Placing cut flowers in vases all over the house to bring in some brightness. And cleaning nooks and crannies, like the fridge and the baseboards. It’s also time to drag the lawn chairs out of the basement and put ‘em on the porch so we can enjoy the beauty of the earth as it comes alive.

You’ll also find me digging back into de-cluttering my spaces.

De-cluttering your physical space is the perfect beginning to nourish the bloom of spring within your heart and home.

It also brings me an amazing peace of mind and boosts my productivity and creativity!

Twenty Reasons to De-clutter Your Home For Spring

  1. As you prepare for a new season, cleaning and de-cluttering allows your soul to shift.
  2. Everyone living in your home can more easily make the transition to a new season when living a a clean space.
  3. De-cluttering, cleaning, and refreshing your physical space helps dissipate the winter blues.
  4. Everything has energy and you can renew your energy by removing excess.
  5. Pockets of clutter distract you from living your best life.
  6. Life crystallizes when your physical space is in order.
  7. In order to make space in your life for the new and brilliant to come in – you have to release the old and crusty.
  8. You begin to fall in love with your life when you home is a space in which you can relax.
  9. When your surroundings are serene, your soul will be able to create.
  10. Every time you open a drawer and have to look for something, your mind refocuses. It turns to the task of finding scissors and distracts you from writing that chapter of your book, that blog post, that sales letter or the perfect line of a song
  11. When energy is consistently flowing out to things that don’t really matter or to things that distract you, you have to play tricks in order to get by. You have to “get more” things to keep your energy up.
  12. It’s challenging to live your best life when you are surrounded by too much stuff.
  13. A clean house provides a better environment for reading, thinking and dreaming.
  14. Cleaning is good exercise. The physical removal of excess items in your life – old computers, clothes that don’t fit, and unused appliances – is even better exercise.
  15. Having an organized, sanitized, sparkling clean kitchen can help you make healthier eating choices.
  16. Deep cleaning your home frees it from mold, mildew, dust and bugs.
  17. As you spring clean your home, you can make a list of repairs that need to done.
  18. Cleaning out your closet gives you an opportunity to evaluate what you need for summer. You want to flaunt your style!
  19. It’s easier to connect to your heart – instead of being distracted by mess and clutter.
  20. Socializing with friends is easier when you don’t have to hustle and bustle to clean your house for company. When you want to throw a party, you’ll just need to give the house a lick and a promise.

Want to get your space in order? Want to shed stuff? Want to clean some nooks and crannies without overwhelm and exhaustion?

Join me for 30 Days to Clarity: Clutter Busting Edition .

Each day of the program, you’ll get an inspirational note with a task designed to take 30 minutes or less.

Together, we will get things streamlined, de-cluttered, and organized in small, steady doses. We’ll also tackle some hidden spaces for some bonus Spring Cleaning Action! This approach allows us to slowly add routines and build a momentum of organization, without the exhaustion at the end. It also adds to – instead of draining – that precious energy.

Getting clear in your life by dealing with all sizes of clutter will allow you to direct your precious energy to living full engaged.

I want you to fall in love with your life so that you can live every moment right smack in the middle of the zone.

Just think: You and me (and more than a dozen kindred spirits). 30 Days. 30 Minutes (or less). Clearing space. Clearer thinking.

Getting clear in your life by dealing with your physical clutter (big clutter and small clutter) will allow you to direct your precious energy towards creating the clear path to living your best possible life.

As a bonus, you participate at no additional cost every time Clutter Busting runs this year. Want more details? Click here for the 411.

2015 Course Dates:

  • Sunday, May 11, 2015 to Tuesday, June 10, 2015
  • Sunday, October 25, 2015 to Tuesday, November 24, 2015

Clutter Busting Edition – Course Investment: $39




Size Doesn’t Matter

At Least When It Comes to Clutter

housewife_nina_by_alison_wonderlandMy thoughts have been centered on what it means to be clear about the direction of your life – all kinds of clutter.

I’ve talked about the turning point in my life, when I finally got that no amount of stuff will make you happy, and I’m betting when some of you hear the word “clutter,” you think of an episode of Hoarders or Clean House or crazy cat ladies. You envision closets stuffed with a century of clothes and “Mount Wash-More” in the laundry room. You imagine guests arriving, but being unable to walk into a room because of crap on the floor and piles of papers and dishes on the counters.

This is clutter in the big sense of the word.

And ten years ago, my world could be described in that way. If we were having guests, there was an hour of panic as things were stuffed into closets and under beds.

When I learned to love myself – the real me – I began to shed clutter and get the bulk of my physical world in order. As my physical world began to shape up, my doubts about my purpose on this planet began to shape up too.

Life crystallizes when your physical space is in order.

But that isn’t the only clutter I had in my mind’s eye when I was creating this course.

“Clutter is not just the stuff on your floor—it’s anything that stands between you and the life you want to be living.” — Peter Walsh

We live a pretty uncluttered life, in the big sense of the word. My bed is made daily. An unexpected visitor could pop over and I wouldn’t be embarrassed. In fact, I could quickly produce a snack and a beverage without needing to dig around for it.

Nevertheless, there is a reason I chose “streamline” as my bonus word for the first three months of 2012. My days are not as productive as they could be, and much of that productivity loss is due to clutter in the smaller sense of the word.

The last quarter of 2011 was busy for JB and I. We made three trips to Chicago, spent a week in New York, and a long weekend in DC. We went to holiday parties and had a houseguest. We also completely redecorated the dining room, the living room, the family room, and breakfast nook. In all that busy-ness, I fell out of many of the routines I have in place that keep me organized.

Papers didn’t get filed and new files weren’t set up for all the new purchases. When I went to pull a pair of scissors out of the “junk drawer” in the kitchen, I found receipts, pens, gum but no scissors. I baked four cakes and twelve dozen cookies in a week, but had to dig around for the cinnamon – a must in everything I bake.

And I don’t even want to mention the disorder in my closet.

Some folks may see these pockets of small clutter as no big deal and part of living an average life. Who cares, right? Everything I mentioned is in a place that can be hidden away if an unexpected visitor popped by.

But what if I told you that each pocket of clutter I am accepting as “normal” was what was really distracting me from my best work?

Our minds are creative creatures. That old lizard brain wants to keep us safe and unchanged, and clutter helps keep us from stepping into our best possible living.

Big clutter and small clutter – this is a case where size really doesn’t matter.

Everything has energy: the cup we drink our coffee out of, the outfit we wear to work, our beautifully made bed and the stack of laundry. We need the energy in our lives to focus on our work, for our dreams, for challenges and for staying healthy.

Every time we encounter something in our world that is undone, incomplete, or overdue, our energy to focus on what matters the most is drained.

We need to pay attention to what we are telling our subconscious minds when we hold on to clutter. Every time you open a drawer and have to look for something, your mind refocuses. It turns to the task of finding scissors and distracts you from writing that chapter of your book, that blog post, that sales letter or the perfect line of a song.

When energy is consistently flowing out to things that don’t really matter or to things that distract you, you have to play tricks in order to get by. You have to “get more” things to keep your energy up.

I could decide to “get organized” and to do it all NOW. I would start the day with a couple of back-to-back Venti Mochas from Starbucks, launch into hyper mode, and run around like a crazy woman clearing my spaces. I’ve done that before and ended up somewhat organized. I also end up exhausted and no clearer in my thinking beyond “clean”.

Or. I can do what I know works – and what 30 Days to Clarity: Clutter Busting Edition can do for you: get things streamlined, de-cluttered, and organized in small, steady doses.

This approach allows us to slowly add routines and build a momentum of organization, without the exhaustion at the end.

It also adds to – instead of draining – that precious energy.

Getting clear in your life by dealing with your clutter – big clutter and small clutter – will allow you to direct your precious energy towards creating the clear path to a life lived in the zone.


Getting clear in your life by dealing with your physical clutter (big clutter and small clutter) will allow you to direct your precious energy towards creating the clear path to living your best possible life.

As a bonus, you participate at no additional cost every time Clutter Busting runs this year. Want more details? Click here for the 411.

2015 Course Dates:

  • Sunday, May 11, 2015 to Tuesday, June 10, 2015
  • Sunday, October 25, 2015 to Tuesday, November 24, 2015

Clutter Busting Edition – Course Investment: $39




Seeking Treasure?

When I was a little girl, my mother would soothe away a bad day by buying me a new treasureisyouBarbie, a Nancy Drew book, or new barrettes. She would make up after a fight during my teenage years by buying me a new pair of shoes or a sweater. When I became an adult, I was convinced that the answer to soothing negative feelings was the purchase of new linens or a sweater. I believed that happiness could be found with purchased treasures. Soon, my home became filled with knick knacks, dishes, and way too many clothes.

When I was in my 30s, I discovered that no amount of stuff would make me happy.

I began shedding things in all areas of my world. I got divorced.  About a month after it was final, a good friend of mine spent several hours helping me get rid some of the stuff that cluttered my world.

After we finished, we dragged everything to the curb. I still recall standing there looking at the piles of unnecessary and useless stuff that I didn’t love and didn’t need yet had spent untold sums of money on. I wondered how I could have believed that the piles of possessions could fix my marriage or make me feel happy or secure. At that moment, gazing upon trash, I was wowed at how my heart felt.

My heart soared for I had rediscovered faith in myself, not possessions.

I learned that in order to begin living the life I knew I was meant to be, I needed to begin to let go of perfection, as well as allow myself to feel.

There are many reasons that people surround themselves with stuff.

Sometimes, buying something makes you feel good for a little while. Sometimes, we think that if we have enough money, we will be happy. Sometimes, we think that with the right brand of jeans or shoes, or the newest cell phone, we won’t be sad or lonely.

Though I shed a lot of stuff in those first few months after my divorce, as time passed, I discovered that there was still some clutter in my world.

When I was in my 40s, my mother died. If you’ve read my blog before, you may recall the epiphany I had shortly after her death.

After my mom died in the summer of 2010, my sister and I helped our father clean out Mom’s closet. I was saddened at the volume of stuff. We ended up with twelve 50-gallon trash bags full of clothing, shoes, belts and handbags. Many of the clothes still had the price tags on them. Lots of the shoes were unworn.

I’ll be honest. My mother was an unhappy woman. No matter how many new clothes and pretty shoes she had, she couldn’t find satisfaction in life.

I realized that no amount of stuff will make you happy.

And in fact, too much stuff can actually stand between you and the most amazing life that you were meant to live.

Everything has energy. Everything from the clothing that you wear, to the books on your shelf, to the coffee cup on your counter.

After Mom died, I really got the fact that everything in my environment had energy.

I began to shed stuff.

Six months after Mom died, I sold my house in Texas. I reduced belongings filling 2000 square feet of space down to a 5×5 storage space, what would fit in my car, and the couple of suitcases of clothing I had brought to Ohio on previous trips.

I discovered that happiness and satisfaction came from within.

Look around you.

Have you been filling your space with stuff to make yourself feel better? Do your surroundings enhance your life or make you feel stressed? Is your wardrobe made up of tasteful pieces that you will wear for seasons to come or is it crammed with items you rarely wear?

If you are seeking treasure, I can tell you where it’s found.

The treasure in your life isn’t stuff. It’s YOU.

YOU are an amazing individual with a beautiful soul and a great heart. You have special gifts to share with those around you. You may just need to dig it out under the things you’ve got covering it up!

Clearing clutter out of your physical space is a step towards getting clearer about your purpose in life.

It’s challenging to life your best life when you are surrounded by too much stuff. It’s also overwhelming and can be challenging as to where to start.

What if I could help you?

I may not be able to come over and help you sort through your closet, but I can be there in spirit. 

If you want to begin to peel away the layers of clutter that have hardened your mind’s ears to the voice of your heart but don’t know where to begin, I’d be honored for you to join me for 30 Days to Clarity: Clutter Busting edition. We’ll get things streamlined, de-cluttered, and organized in small, steady doses.

Darling, life is short and you deserve to spend it marching along the path to loving your life, not tripping over a pile of shoes.

In order to make space in your life for the new and brilliant to come in – you have to release the old and crusty.

How 30 Days to Clarity: Clutter Busting Works

I created the Clutter Busting Course to help you slowly clear your physical spaces. Each day of the class, an email will be delivered each day to your inbox with a task for the day to help you shed physical clutter. Each task will take less than 30 minutes – some will take less than five.

  • With each daily email, you’ll begin to create an environment that is rich and supportive of your dreams.
  • I’ll also be sharing some tips for getting out of the house each morning with less drama.
  • There will be bonus tips on prepping your home for the holidays – and guests!
  • And we’ll have tips, too, on how to set up a system so that you won’t miss important bills.

No matter how organized – or disorganized – you may be feeling now, by the end of the course, you’ll feel worlds lighter. It also promises to be a fun, effective and affordable way to make space in your life for what matters most.
Getting clear in your life by dealing with your physical clutter (big clutter and small clutter) will allow you to direct your precious energy towards creating the clear path to living your best possible life.

As a bonus, you participate at no additional cost every time Clutter Busting runs this year. Want more details? Click here for the 411.

2015 Course Dates:

  • Sunday, May 11, 2015 to Tuesday, June 10, 2015
  • Sunday, October 25, 2015 to Tuesday, November 24, 2015

Clutter Busting Edition – Course Investment: $39




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