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A Road Map for Your Soul

There is a sweet beauty to serendipity. We meet a new lover by chance. We cross paths with an old friend. We find the perfect dress for that upcoming event. We wander into a nifty coffee shop and discover the perfect writing environment.

roadtrip2The spirit of serendipity has brought me to some of the best moments in my life.

Life is like this amazing road trip: there are all kinds of fascinating and fabulous places to stop along the way.

I never would have experience the wonders of my gypsy years with it. And, in fact, I never would have met JB if it weren’t for a serendipitous moment in DC.

But let me tell you something, darling.

If you want to create a life you love on this road trip of life, you can’t rely only on serendipity, you need a road map for your soul.

You need a vision. And a plan.

Let’s be honest here. Most of us (including me in the past!) simply exist. We become passive spectators, watching life unfold a day at a time.

We may plan a vacation, the building of a new home or their careers, but don’t think about creating a vision or plan for life. We put more effort into a wedding than we put into the actual living of a blended life.

We tell ourselves that if we create a plan, we’ll miss out on the serendipity.

I get it. And though I hate the word “balance” when it comes to our soul’s purpose, there is this beautiful space of greater satisfaction that can be achieved with just a little forethought. This happens when you create a vision for your life, a plan to achieve your most important dreams, and allow for adventure.

Darling, life is short. And you deserve to be squeezing every drop of living out of it.

I wish I could tell you the number of people that find themselves disillusioned, discouraged and unhappy. They get into their late 30’s, 40’s, or even 70’s and wonder what went wrong. Their career feels stalled, their marriage feels broken, or maybe their health is failing.

It’s a point where a person may wonder, “what the hell am I doing here? I thought that I would be there.

But here’s the real deal: it doesn’t have to be this way. You can choose, no matter how young or old you are, to create a vision for your life and a plan to reach your dreams.

Still not sure about this whole concept of creating a Vision and a Plan for your life? Here are six delicious reasons to consider it.

roadtrip1Creating a vision will help you identify your current realities.

You can’t get where you want to go unless you start with where you are. What are the most brutal realities of your life? Where are you falling short? Where do you know you need to improve? Taking stock and making peace with who we are has to be the starting ground.

Creating a vision will equip you with envisioning a better future.

Yes, you need to need to acknowledge where you are, but you also need to see clearly where you are going. What do you want in each of the major categories of your life? What would they look like in their ideal state?

This is where it starts to get fun! You. Creating a big juicy vision for your life.

Taking your vision and creating a life plan gives you a place to aim the arrow.

Then comes your life plan. This isn’t about a set-in-stone list of steps and to-do’s. It doesn’t have to be complicated.

No, darling, this is a road map for accomplishing what matters most. It’s about knowing where you are, setting your destination and plotting your course to get there. Darling, to achieve your dreams, you need to take action. And a life plan gives you the fuel to be bolder.

Creating a vision will help you clarify your most important priorities.

Identifying your priorities and values helps you mark the milestones on your course. Your boss has priorities for you. You were always given objectives in school and college. But what about you? Do you have a list? What is important to you?

Creating a vision will help you say “no” to things that aren’t important.

Once you have said “yes” to what matters most, you are in a great position to say “no” to those activities that matter less. Suddenly you have the clarity—and the courage—to manage your opportunities rather than to be managed by them.

A vision and a plan is like road side assistance.

You want to enjoy this road trip of life. And you certainly can’t control everything. There are going to be bumps and detours and road construction along the way. But creating a vision and a plan gives you the insurance of help as you travel. Your vision will dramatically improve your chances of arriving at your destination feeling joyful, content, and satisfied.

It will be clear to you that you really lived.

If you’re ready to create a map for your soul   Clearing Soul Clutter – Creating Your Vision  may be your ticket to not just the map, but plotting your route. Want more details? Click Here to learn more about Clearing Soul Clutter (Creating Your Vision).

2015 – Course Dates:

  • Sunday, March 29, 2015 to Tuesday, April 28, 2015
  • Sunday, September 13, 2015 to Tuesday, October 13, 2015



Create a Vision. Create a Plan. Live a Life You Love.

A recent notice from my local library was the signal that it was time to take a short digital sabbatical.    You see, I had checked readingbyfireout a book by a favorite author – the latest book in a series I’ve been reading for a decade and three weeks later, I hadn’t even cracked it open.

My typical consumption of fiction is usually a book (or more) a week, but the last three books I’ve read were all work related.

Don’t get me wrong.  I love my work.  I adore my clients. I love reading books for work.  But, baby, I’ve devoured fiction for as long as I could read, and this year, I just haven’t been reading enough romantic fluff (or spy novels).

And for me, this is a signal that I am off-plan.

Though I love the beauty of serendipity and believe it has a huge place in our lives, I also believe that in order to create big things in your life, you need a vision – and a loose plan.

Visions are an overhead view of the pieces that create a life you love.

When I look at my big juicy vision, it includes work that lights up my soul, excellent meals created with my own two hands, passionate kisses, glasses of wine under the moonlight, and a ravenous consumption of all things prose in cozy chairs and poolside.

You may say I’m a dreamer, but I’m also a realist.

In order to make my vision come to fruition, it’s going two more things:  a plan and taking action.  You need a plan because without a target to aim at, it’s throwing spaghetti on the wall.   And darling, if you think you can make a vision a reality without taking action, you’ll be stuck in the “dreamer” space.

Part of being a realist is understanding that sometimes  I’m going to get dirt under my fingernails. You have to be willing to do the work. Sometimes, you have to know when to ease up on yourself.  And sometimes, darling, you have to shake things up when a big chunk of your vision is missing.

For me, unplugging is mixing it up.  It’s changing the day-to-day rhythm of being electronically connected with folks near and far. To force the pendulum to swing in another direction (or else stop and reset).

At the end of the week, I’ll have an idea if it’s my vision that needs adjustment, my plan that needs tweaking, or if all I needed was a big dose of relaxation (and a stack of novels).

What about you?  Do you have a vision?  Are you living life by the seat of your pants?  Or are you holding so tightly to a plan of how things are “supposed” to look, that you’re about to snap that plan in half?

If you’re seeking clarity around what you most desire, Clearing Soul Clutter  may be the ticket you’ve been seeking. Want more details? Click Here to learn more about Clearing Soul Clutter (Creating Your Vision).

2015 – Course Dates:

  • Sunday, March 29, 2015 to Tuesday, April 28, 2015
  • Sunday, September 13, 2015 to Tuesday, October 13, 2015



Discover Your Inner Wisdom

By Clearing Brain Clutter

I want to share a secret with you, darling.  You are incredibly wise.

ladylikeWhen I ask you what you most desire, what do you answer?  To be honest, many of you will say “I don’t know” and believe that it’s an honest answer.  But here’s the deal kitten:  You do know.  You have the answers deep inside of you.

Sometimes, the desires of our hearts  feel like they’re  lost to us, but the truth is that they not lost;  they are merely buried.  Buried under the “need tos” and the “shoulds” and the “keeping up with the Jones and Smiths.”

I know you may not believe me. Ten years ago, I wouldn’t have believed me.  I was in a miserable, loveless marriage that was sucking all the desire, drive, and creativity from my soul.

So what changed for me?

  • I wanted to stop hurting.  I wanted to stop being miserable and heartbroken and depressed.
  • I wanted to feel again.  I wanted to end the destructive ways I was numbing myself:   food, alcohol, over-exercising, filling my schedule to overflowing.
  • I wanted to be loved for exactly who I was .

How did I change it?

  • I got help.  Because, baby, sometimes we simply need a guide to find our way back to who we really are, and to what we are meant to create in this world.
  • I realized that I had a choice.  I could choose my thoughts.  I could choose how I wanted to feel I was always in choice.  And I’ll admit that even in recent months, I have to be reminded of this.
  • I learned that when I stopped numbing, I did feel the icky stuff, but it passed. The bonus, though, was that I always began feeling the really wonderful stuff again – happiness, joy, desire.  You see, when you numb the bad feelings, you numb it all.
  • I found gratitude.
  • I cleared clutter.  I ditched all kinds of physical clutter in my world.  I began clearing the crappy thoughts crowding my mind.    All the shitty and hateful voices that told me I wasn’t good enough.
  • I stopped asking those powerless rhetorical questions like “why me?” and began asking the right kind of questions, like “who do I want to be in this world?” and “what do I want to do?”
  • I stopped being a victim in my own life.  It was time to be the heroine of my own story, not the tragically flawed supporting character.
  • I began to explore.  I explored the similarities between myself and others.  I discovered how I was different from my fellow travelers.
  • I began to let go of perfection.   I stopped  trying to make everyone else happy.
  • I allowed the layers to fall away, understanding that sometimes, I would get hurt without my protective walls around my heart.  I learned however, that this allowed me to feel electric and alive.
  • I learned to love again.  I learned to love myself and I allowed myself to fall in love with others.  I learned that by loving myself, and accepting myself for who I was at any particular moment, I could step way the moments of loathing.
  • I learned to trust.  To trust my instincts. To listen to my heart. To trust in others.
  • I learned that the passion I allowed to blossom in my heart was actually a fire that burned away the fears.

Let me be frank, my darling.  These are all lessons I am still learning

After leaving behind the miserable person I was and stepping towards and into a life I was head over heels in love, I came to understand the fact that there is no “there” in this evolution of love and life.  But baby, it’s all about the upward trajectory of finding ways to love life even more.

Darling, you can fall in love with your life.

You can write yourself a permission slip to simply be wholly you.  You can find the ways to being comfortable in your own skin.  You can learn to hear the small quiet voice of your heart to discover the answers you need to live a life your love.

You may just need a little help as you take those steps towards creating the life you desire.

30 Days to Clarity: Clearing Brain Clutter  is a great first step to discovering your inner wisdom.

Getting help was the first step for me to this life that I love.  And the deep sense of peace that I am evolving into the person I was meant to be.  That I am creating what I was meant to create.

Are you ready to clear your mind but not sure where to start? Need a little help uncovering the answers? Realize you’re not quite sure what questions to even ask yourself? 30 Days to Clarity: Clearing Brain Clutter – Discovering Your Heart’s Desires is a loving place to start.

Now Available as a Fully-Downloadable Course.

Upon signing up you’ll receive a workbook containing all 30 lessons. There are also dozens of worksheets and writing prompts to take you from cobwebs in your brain to a clear thinking and the ability to listen to the small, still voice of your heart.

No more waiting for the course to begin or that next email. You can begin at any time.

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Designed to help you clear out the brain clutter that is drowning out the voices of your heart and soul. You’ll gain clarity by getting to know yourself and what the core of you really want.

You deserve to fall head over heels in love with your life. You, my darling, are the living embodiment of wisdom.

The Investment: $21

Shush Your Inner Critic: Reach For Help

It hurts my heart when I hear about the sufferings of others.  It drives me to go into action, desiring to comfort and then brainstorm in an attempt to help them uncover what’s really going on.   There is something so transformative that happens, once you can get to the why.

And to be totally honest here,  the whole humanness of people – that underlying story of how an individual lives and moves and works and loves fascinates me for it allows me to understand on a scale beyond my personal experiences.

Through the years, I’ve discovered that every person has their answers inside themselves, but just may not have the tools to uncover them alone.   They need a little help discovering the voice of their heart, which will lead them to the answers of their why, and guide them toward whatever the next step may be.

It can be so challenging to come from a place of love when the tools of the past have been fashioned from criticism, pinpointing what they did wrong, and all kinds of beating themselves up for failures.   I’m the first to admit that the voice of my inner critic is overly harsh and a bit mean spirited.

How can positive change occur when the only tools in your “creating change” toolbox are those critical ones?

So, darling, let me be frank: this is where you need to bring in the voices of others.   Because, baby, that inner critic you’ve been living with isn’t going to help you discover your next step.  And it sure isn’t going to help lift you up when you’re tired, frustrated, and worshiping at the altar of “busy” in order to keep all feeling away.

Sometimes, a single thoughtful question asked by a caring individual will open your world up.  Sometimes, a simple yet powerful paragraph will shush that inner critic.  Sometimes, investing an hour with a coach will help you create an action plan for the next month.

I believe that transformation is possible – especially if you approach it from a space of love and inner desires.  You just have to be willing to hold out a hand and ask for a little help if you’re struggling.

We are so blessed to live in a day and age where help is in reach.   You can order a book online or find it at your local library.  You can read blogs that will take you further along your path with one elegant idea.  You can enroll yourself in an educational opportunity.  You can hire a coach to help you peel away the layers and formulate a plan.

I know everyone is so ” busy”, especially as the year draws to a close and a new year begins.  Time is passing and it’s up to you to reach out for what you need.

I’d love be the person to offer you that hand.  

I have an open and loving and empathetic heart. A heart that understands more than you can imagine. A heart that sends you so much love.  Above all, I have a heart and soul that will never judge you as you unwind your own heart and soul from the years and years of tamping down what you really want.

The Advent Series begins on December 2nd.  It’s a 30-Day Journey into your heart via the tenets of Hope, Preparation, Joy and Love.  You can also pair that with a single coaching session to get that outside voice to help you rediscover your own inner wisdom.

If a journaling course doesn’t sound like the ticket for you, consider One-on-one coaching.  Working with a coach has been one of the best investments I’ve ever made for myself.  (You can even schedule a complimentary discovery session to see if we’re a good fit).

Make a leap of faith in your life and discover what you really want. Take a tiny courageous step. Begin your journey to the clearest, shiniest, most passionate and sexiest version of YOU.

Invest in yourself.  Reach out for a little help to shush the inner critic and discover the beautiful voice of you heart.

Darling, I’m here for you. 

So, fess up: what are the tools in your toolbox? What can you do today to reach out for a little help?

Love Your Life: Clear Your Path

Darling, what do you want? What gifts and talents do you want to share with the world? What do you need to lean into in order to fall head over heels in love with your life?

If you’re like many, the answer to this question is “I don’t know.”

womanshoeshoppingI’m going to let you in on a little secret: your heart of hearts already knows what you want. The thing is, if you’ve stuffed down your desires with thoughts like “I don’t deserve it” or “that’s impractical” or “later” or “I should be doing” and “I should want” …then it’s possible your heart is just buried under layers and layers of clutter.

You see, what’s often happening is that our hearts, minds, and souls are not in agreement about what we need in order to feel as if we’re on the right path. Then our minds take over and begin stuffing our worlds with shadow desires. We feel compelled to fill our lives with something.

We feel like something is missing, so we get a new pair of shoes, and soon we discover we’ve filled our closets with clothes and shoes we will never wear. We comfort ourselves with food. We surround ourselves and fill our spaces with knick knacks to fill the holes our heart has.

We hear the faint whispers of our heart, but don’t believe what our heart is saying, so we fill our schedules to the brim with activities, effectively quieting our heart because we find ourselves too exhausted to listen.

We can’t pinpoint what our next step is, so we look to the external world for what others are doing, and mimicking their steps as a semblance of guidance. Only to ask ourselves, “Now what?”

“In order to seek one’s own direction, one must simplify the mechanics of ordinary, everyday life.” ~ Plato

Let me tell you something, kitten: if you’ve been surrounding yourself with stuff in order to fill the longings of your soul, yet find yourself barely liking – let along loving – your life, then darling, it’s time.

Time to peel away the layers of clutter that have silenced the voices of your heart.

The first step for many of us is to begin clearing the physical clutter from our worlds. I know it sounds simplistic. How is cleaning your closet and getting rid of those dishes you despise going to help you lean into a life you love?

It’s all about the energy, baby!

You see, everything has energy. From the cup from which we drink our coffee to the outfit we wear to work to our beautifully made bed. Yep, even the stack of neatly folded laundry has energy. We need the energy in our lives to focus on our work, for our dreams, for challenges and for staying healthy.

Every time we encounter something in our world that is undone, incomplete, or overdue, our energy to focus on what matters the most is drained.

Every time you have to push aside the clothes in your closet that you don’t like to find something to wear, you lose energy. Every time you sift through a stack of papers on your desk, you lose energy. And, yes. Those dirty dishes in the sink, the crud on your refrigerator shelves, and that pile of magazines on your coffee table all drain your focus and that precious energy of yours.

Every time you open a drawer and have to look for something, your mind refocuses. It turns to the task of finding scissors and distracts you from writing that chapter of your book, that blog post, that sales letter or the perfect line of a song.

And there’s more than energy at work.

You see, everything has our thoughts and emotions embedded within it. Old furniture we don’t love, clothes we don’t wear, and china we hate is no exception to this.

When we hold onto clutter, we’re telling our subconscious minds that our stuff is more important than our true desires.

If you believe that the solution to creating a life you love is to change your wardrobe, buy a new house, or lose 20 pounds, then let me be frank with you, my dear: Creating a life you love will be clearer when you first remove what’s blocking the road.

When you remove those blocks, then the life force, creativity, and abundance can flow freely to you and through you. Because, darling before you add anything it’s critical to get crystal clear about what you want.

If you want to begin to peel away the layers of clutter that have hardened your mind’s ears to the voice of your heart but don’t know where to begin, I’d be honored for you to join me for 30 Days to Clarity: Clutter Busting edition. We’ll get things streamlined, de-cluttered, and organized in small, steady doses.

Darling, life is short and you deserve to spend it marching along the path to loving your life, not tripping over a pile of shoes.


Getting clear in your life by dealing with your physical clutter (big clutter and small clutter) will allow you to direct your precious energy towards creating the clear path to living your best possible life.

Out of the Vault for 2017: Beginning Sunday, September 17th

Clutter Busting Edition – Course Investment: $21

Fall in Love Your Life: Clear Your Clutter

I used to live a horribly cluttered life. No, not “hoarders” level, but any guest visit was often preceded by a lot of rushing around , stashing stuff in closets and under beds, and hiding all those extra pans in the oven. It wasn’t rubberglovesoptionalthat the house wasn’t clean – I mopped and dusted and vacuumed on a regular basis. The honest-to- goodness truth was there was just too much stuff.

See, I had grown up with the lesson that a new book or a new outfit was the solution to sadness. I tried to soothe the fact that my (then) husband was rarely home by buying knick knacks and linens. I tried to fill the ache of loneliness by filling it with sweaters and books. I showered my kids with over-abundant amounts of videos and toys to cover the fact that their father would rather spend time at the gym than hanging out with the family.

Needless to say, the clutter I tried to fill emotional holes with caused additional fights in an already fragile relationship.

As I’ve shared before, we finally ended the 17 ½ year marriage. He dealt with the clutter of our relationship by buying new furniture and leaving 95% of the household belongings with me and the kids. I dealt with clutter by enlisting a friend over a long weekend and literally cleaning house – stained and broken furniture, clothes that didn’t fit, and other items I didn’t utterly love sat in a giant pile on the curb awaiting the trash truck.

I wondered how I could have believed that the piles of possessions could fix my marriage or make me feel happy or secure. It was in those moments, after shedding volumes of things, I began to discover that clearing physical clutter would set me on a path to living a live I could love.

My heart soared for I had rediscovered faith in myself, not possessions.

My battle with clutter has continued since my divorce. I discovered that when my schedule was more cluttered, my world followed suit in little piles of clutter in drawers and on nightstands. (I kept it under control by hiring household help.) And then I spent almost 3 years living out of suitcases. Spending more time in hotels than at home is a sure-fire way to wade efficiently through collections of suits and shoes.

And then, life events inspired me to take a harder look at my stuff.

My mother died in June 2010. When my sister and I helped our father clean out Mom’s closet, we ended up with twelve 50-gallon trash bags full of clothing, shoes, belts and handbags. Many of the clothes still had the price tags on them. Lots of the shoes were unworn.

I was saddened at the volume of stuff. My mother was an unhappy woman and no matter how many new clothes and pretty shoes she had, she couldn’t find satisfaction in life.

In December of 2010, I sold my house in Texas and moved to Ohio. Despite massive de-cluttering since my divorce in 2004, I realized that there wasn’t a lot that I loved enough to transport 1000 miles.

JB and I created a life together by combining what I loved enough to bring to Ohio with what he had brought here months before. Over the last two years, we’ve slowly added pieces of furniture that we both love and have begun to fill blank walls with art that has meaning by framing photos we took while traveling.

I believe it’s important to surround yourself with items that make you love your life. Don’t surround yourself with stuff in order to fill a lack of love for yourself or your life.

These days, I only have small skirmishes with clutter. The search for scissors and pens in the kitchen junk drawer, the search for one particular shirt in a sea of clothes, or the search for the baking powder in the pantry are typical of where my clutter forms. But to keep my skirmishes from expanding into a full out war again, I regularly attack my clutter by creating regular tasks on my calendar to organize my pantry, closets, and desk.

I’ve learned that by clearing my spaces of clutter, I’m better able to think and dream. I’ve learned that by having less, I actually have more. I’ve learned that in order for there to be space for achieving bigger and creating a life where you love the day-today, you have to clear out the stuff that isn’t enhancing your world.

What about you?

Have you been filling your space with stuff to make yourself feel better? Do your surroundings enhance your life or make you feel stressed? Is your wardrobe made up of tasteful pieces that you will wear for seasons to come or is it crammed with items you rarely wear?

Darling, you have so many gifts to share with the world. You have the opportunity to create a life you are head-over-heels in love with.

You may just need to dig it out under the things you’ve got covering it up!

Clearing clutter out of your physical space is a step towards getting clearer about your purpose in life. I know it can feel overwhelming. The biggest challenge can be where to start.

What if I could help?

I may not be able to come over and help you sort through your closet, but I can be there in spirit with my 30 days to Clarity: Clutter Busting eCourse.

Getting clear in your life by dealing with your physical clutter (big clutter and small clutter) will allow you to direct your precious energy towards creating the clear path to living your best possible life.

Out of the Vault for 2017: Beginning Sunday, September 17th

Clutter Busting Edition – Course Investment: $21

Are You Avoiding the Questions?

Because The Answers Scare You?

We sat across the table from each other, sharing hot cups of coffee and pieces of a decadent chocolate cake I had made earlier in the ladieswholunchweek. One of my closest friends had come over to catch up.

We talked of love and fear and laughter and home and the daily joys and challenges of living. We shared secrets as easily as we’d shared the cream and the sugar for the coffee.

She was clearly unhappy.

Then I asked her a question I’ve asked I’ve asked a kajillion times before:

Darling, what do YOU want?

And then came the pain. The heart- wrenching can’t-catch-your-breath kind of pain. The kind of pain that no amount of chocolate cake can assuage.

We talked about existing and feeling numb instead of truly embracing life and living it. And she uttered the words to me that I had heard more times that I want to count from girlfriends and clients and strangers who have conversed with me over the last few years:

“I don’t know if I want to ask those questions because I’m afraid of the answers.”

My heart shattered into a thousand pieces, just as it always does, when someone – anyone – lives with that kind of fear…that kind of self-loathing…that kind of numbness. My heart shattered because I’ve been there. I’ve numbed myself with food and alcohol and sex at different times in my life so that I could forget about the question. I’ve surrounded myself with stuff in the hope of burying the questions under piles of clothes and shoes and knick-knacks.

But the truth, my dear, is this: You cannot begin living until you begin to ask those questions.

I would never lie to you and say that this is easy. I would never lie to you and say that it instantly changes the world.

I can tell you, though, that when you begin to release yourself from the layers and years of numbing what your heart and soul are crying for, you will begin to feel alive. The passions that begin to blossom in your heart will also begin to burn away the fears. Loving yourself, and accepting yourself as you are in the moment, will push away the moments of loathing.

Love will begin to replace fear.

I can tell you that getting right within your own soul is the path to healthier and happier relationships. Because, Darling, if you don’t make your relationship with yourself healthy, then none of your others will be healthy.

I’ll be even more honest with you: I don’t have the exact answers for what you need to be happy and what you need to feel sexy and alive. But I do have something that will guide you along to those answers that only you can unearth: the questions.

When we arrive at the question, the answer is already near. ― Ralph Waldo Emerson

I have other things I can offer you.

I can share with you the obstacles and discoveries I made along the path I traveled as I went from my own days of numb existence into this life that I am in so in love with.

I have an open and loving and empathetic heart. A heart that understands more than you can imagine. A heart that sends you love and wishes of joyful arias and a zest for living. Above all, I have a heart and soul that will never judge you as you unwind your own heart and soul from the years and years of tamping down what you really want.

I may not hold the exact answers, but I know that deep inside yourself, you do. I can offer you my heart and soul, my hands and arms.

I can offer you virtual coffee and chocolate cake.

Make a leap of faith in your life and discover what you really want. Take a tiny courageous step. Begin your journey to the clearest, shiniest, most passionate and sexiest version of YOU.

Invest in yourself.  Darling, I’m here for you.

Are you ready to ask the questions and discover your answers?  Are you ready to clear your mind but not sure where to start? Need a little help uncovering the answers? Realize you’re not quite sure what questions to even ask yourself? 30 Days to Clarity: Clearing Brain Clutter – Discovering Your Heart’s Desires is a loving place to start.

Now Available as a Fully-Downloadable Course.

Upon signing up you’ll receive a workbook containing all 30 lessons. There are also dozens of worksheets and writing prompts to take you from cobwebs in your brain to a clear thinking and the ability to listen to the small, still voice of your heart.

No more waiting for the course to begin or that next email. You can begin at any time.

ClarityPurchaseButton
Designed to help you clear out the brain clutter that is drowning out the voices of your heart and soul. You’ll gain clarity by getting to know yourself and what the core of you really want.

You deserve to fall head over heels in love with your life. Because, darling, you can fall in love with your life when you dive into your inner wisdom and unleash your answers.

The Investment: $21

What Does Your Heart Most Desire?

Tell me, darling: What do you want?  No.  I’m not talking about unlimited books, a trip to Paris, a perfect relationship or a killer wardrobe that fits your (now) size 4 svelte body.

I’m asking you what your heart most desires so that your soul can soar.

Don’t get me wrong.  There’s not a damned thing wrong with going to Paris, having an endless supply of books, being thin with a lovely wardrobe, and being in a loving relationship.  There are times when I have wanted all those things.

patience1The thing is, having any one – or all – of those things doesn’t automatically make life perfect.  Eventually, you’ll get tired of the perfect man and reading books in Paris café’s.  Because-  no matter where you go and who you are with – there you are.

You need to learn about your wants.  Not just the surface desires for physical things – and the roles society expects you to play.  If you don’t gain clarity around your deepest desires, then everything that is, on the surface, perfect, won’t feel that way.

There is no magic pill – no magic place – no magic person – that will “fix” things for you.

In fact, let me be clear: you are not broken and do not need to be fixed.   You just need to gain clarity around what you most want in life.

Maybe you’re like me: you’re just a little tarnished.

Sure, you’ve made your mistakes, but the emotional baggage, battle scars, grey hairs, and laugh lines are a part of your hero’s journey.  I know that they have been part of mine.

Know what clears away tarnish?  Polish.

And to be frank with you, I kind of like that patina of the tarnish on me.  I wear it well.  In fact, I’ve earned it.

Embracing the shiny – and tarnished – parts of me makes me more in love with who I am in this moment, who I was in the past, and who I will be tomorrow.

Look.  I know within the deepest recesses of my soul that you desire and deserve to be happy.  You deserve to be the most playful, sassy, and sexy version of you.

To dig around and uncover that,  you just may need a little help.

Let me help you.  Let me hand you a cloth and some polish and help you discover the shine that gleams beneath the layers of life.

I’m a big believer that being asked the right questions is the beginning to moving yourself along in the right direction.

And by right direction, it’s not one that anyone chooses but you.

Only you can define what happy looks like to you.  Only you can define what satisfaction feels like.

I know that this is scary territory for some.  I cannot tell you the umpteen times that I have sat across the table from (or at the other end of the phone) from someone who realized they were afraid of the answers even more than of the questions.   Change is scary for all of us.

But time, and time again, I have also witnessed the discovery of that one elegant idea or pivotal question that sparked that first step to begin living life fully.

Let me assure you, darling.  I have faith in you.

Faith that you  can find your heart’s desires.  That you can be happy.  That you can feel joyful and satisfied and proud.  Faith that you can discover the answers that are right there inside you.  Answers  that will guide you beyond the pain, the numbness, and the fear of simply existing.

It starts with facing the simple question of “What do I want”. And answering it with truth.

Tell me, darling, what one step can you take in the direction of your heart’s desires?

Are you ready to clear ask the questions that will lead you to your heart’s answers?  Are you ready to begin clearing the cobwebs from your mind?  30 Days to Clarity: Clearing Brain Clutter – Discovering Your Heart’s Desires is a loving place to start.

Now Available as a Fully-Downloadable Course.

Upon signing up you’ll receive a workbook containing all 30 lessons. There are also dozens of worksheets and writing prompts to take you from cobwebs in your brain to a clear thinking and the ability to listen to the small, still voice of your heart.

No more waiting for the course to begin or that next email. You can begin at any time.

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The Best Tool For Clearing Mental Cobwebs

I’m a huge fan of clearing physical clutter as a path forward to gaining clarity.  Disorder, clutter, and undone spaces in your home stall you from creating, sabotage your productivity, and keep you from moving forward.

“Clutter is not just the stuff on your floor—it’s anything that stands between you and the life you want to be living.” — Peter Walsh

Let me tell you something, darling:  clutter in any form robs you of energy.

This includes not only physical clutter, but mental  and emotional clutter as well.   You know what physical clutter is.  Emotional clutter is hanging on to things like fear, anger, and resentment.  Mental clutter is when you have too many thoughts bouncing around in your mind. 

I’d love to help you clear all kinds of clutter in your life.  In fact, clients often come to me to help them shed all kinds of clutter from their worlds. Clutter in any form interferes with the ability to thrive.

I’ll be honest:  I have a personal and intimate relationship with all kinds of clutter and have changed my life by learning how to reduce and eliminate it.

One of the biggest challenges my clients discuss with me is around clutter.  Clients tell me about colliding thoughts and overwhelming to-do lists.   Important tasks are forgotten.  Long term desires and goals are ignored because there “isn’t enough time” to put them in our schedules.

Today, I wanted to focus on mental clutter – and share the best tool I know to reduce and eliminate mental clutter.

Simply put, the fastest way to clear brain clutter:  write stuff down.

Seriously.  The fastest way to clear brain clutter is to get it out of your head and onto paper.   Need a reason to grab a pen and get stuff out of your head and onto paper?

Here are sixteen reasons why:

  1. Writing stuff down frees up mental capacity so you can focus.
  2. Writing things down allows you get unstuck – because you have taken action.
  3. Writing stuff down allows you to filter past the automatic default thoughts.
  4. Writing things down allows you to take inventory.
  5. Writing stuff down allows you to choose where to put your focus.
  6. Writing things down allows you to delete from your life what is draining your energy.
  7. Writing stuff down makes it easier to take action.
  8. Writing things down allows you to take big and vague ideas from your head and whittle them down into manageable action steps.
  9. Writing stuff down allows you to refine your ideas.
  10. Writing things down helps you remember the details of important events before time fades the memories.
  11. Writing stuff down allows you to record moments of self realization.
  12. Writing things down helps you pinpoint what actions are easier and more effective in your life.
  13. Writing stuff down – like what you’ve accomplished and what you are grateful for –  helps your mind create new paths of positive thoughts.
  14. Writing things down helps you discover a new way of being that works better.
  15. Writing stuff down helps to remind yourself of new paths until they become habits.
  16. Writing things down will allow you to direct your precious energy towards creating the clear path to a life lived in the zone

When energy is consistently flowing out to things that don’t really matter or to things that distract you, you have to play tricks in order to get by.  It’s time to stop playing tricks to get by, my dear. 

It’s time to release your mental clutter.

I know it can be a challenge to just begin to write without some direction, so what if I could help you methodically baby step your way from mental clutter to clarity?

30 Days to Clarity:  Clearing Brain Clutter – Discovering Your Heart’s Desire is the answer.

Every day of the program, you will get an email with a prompt that will take swirling thoughts from your head, connect them with your heart’s desire and discover what sets your soul on fire.

Are you ready to clear your mind but not sure where to start? Need a little help uncovering the answers? Realize you’re not quite sure what questions to even ask yourself? 30 Days to Clarity: Clearing Brain Clutter – Discovering Your Heart’s Desires is a loving place to start.

Now Available as a Fully-Downloadable Course.

Upon signing up you’ll receive a workbook containing all 30 lessons. There are also dozens of worksheets and writing prompts to take you from cobwebs in your brain to a clear thinking and the ability to listen to the small, still voice of your heart.

No more waiting for the course to begin or that next email. You can begin at any time.

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Make Life Blossom

20 Spectacular Reasons to Get Organized, Toss Clutter & Spring Clean

Spring has officially arrived.

I’m hearing tales from friends all over the US that daffodils have begun to poke their heads up and that spring showers (and storms) have begun flowergardeningto bring needed moisture for the growth of later spring blooms. In the first few weeks of spring, I find myself embracing fresh breezes, admiring early and delicate blooms, and longing for the first local asparagus.

At home, you’ll find me embracing some true spring rituals. Opening the windows to allow fresh air to bathe the house with the freshness of spring as it replaces the cooped up smells of winter. Placing cut flowers in vases all over the house to bring in some brightness. And cleaning nooks and crannies, like the fridge and the baseboards. It’s also time to drag the lawn chairs out of the basement and put ‘em on the porch so we can enjoy the beauty of the earth as it comes alive.

You’ll also find me digging back into de-cluttering my spaces.

De-cluttering your physical space is the perfect beginning to nourish the bloom of spring within your heart and home.

It also brings me an amazing peace of mind and boosts my productivity and creativity!

Twenty Reasons to De-clutter Your Home For Spring

  1. As you prepare for a new season, cleaning and de-cluttering allows your soul to shift.
  2. Everyone living in your home can more easily make the transition to a new season when living a a clean space.
  3. De-cluttering, cleaning, and refreshing your physical space helps dissipate the winter blues.
  4. Everything has energy and you can renew your energy by removing excess.
  5. Pockets of clutter distract you from living your best life.
  6. Life crystallizes when your physical space is in order.
  7. In order to make space in your life for the new and brilliant to come in – you have to release the old and crusty.
  8. You begin to fall in love with your life when you home is a space in which you can relax.
  9. When your surroundings are serene, your soul will be able to create.
  10. Every time you open a drawer and have to look for something, your mind refocuses. It turns to the task of finding scissors and distracts you from writing that chapter of your book, that blog post, that sales letter or the perfect line of a song
  11. When energy is consistently flowing out to things that don’t really matter or to things that distract you, you have to play tricks in order to get by. You have to “get more” things to keep your energy up.
  12. It’s challenging to live your best life when you are surrounded by too much stuff.
  13. A clean house provides a better environment for reading, thinking and dreaming.
  14. Cleaning is good exercise. The physical removal of excess items in your life – old computers, clothes that don’t fit, and unused appliances – is even better exercise.
  15. Having an organized, sanitized, sparkling clean kitchen can help you make healthier eating choices.
  16. Deep cleaning your home frees it from mold, mildew, dust and bugs.
  17. As you spring clean your home, you can make a list of repairs that need to done.
  18. Cleaning out your closet gives you an opportunity to evaluate what you need for summer. You want to flaunt your style!
  19. It’s easier to connect to your heart – instead of being distracted by mess and clutter.
  20. Socializing with friends is easier when you don’t have to hustle and bustle to clean your house for company. When you want to throw a party, you’ll just need to give the house a lick and a promise.

Want to get your space in order? Want to shed stuff? Want to clean some nooks and crannies without overwhelm and exhaustion?

Join me for 30 Days to Clarity: Clutter Busting Edition .

Each day of the program, you’ll get an inspirational note with a task designed to take 30 minutes or less.

Together, we will get things streamlined, de-cluttered, and organized in small, steady doses. We’ll also tackle some hidden spaces for some bonus Spring Cleaning Action! This approach allows us to slowly add routines and build a momentum of organization, without the exhaustion at the end. It also adds to – instead of draining – that precious energy.

Getting clear in your life by dealing with all sizes of clutter will allow you to direct your precious energy to living full engaged.

I want you to fall in love with your life so that you can live every moment right smack in the middle of the zone.

Just think: You and me (and more than a dozen kindred spirits). 30 Days. 30 Minutes (or less). Clearing space. Clearer thinking.

Getting clear in your life by dealing with your physical clutter (big clutter and small clutter) will allow you to direct your precious energy towards creating the clear path to living your best possible life.

Out of the Vault for 2017: Beginning Sunday, September 17th

Clutter Busting Edition – Course Investment: $21

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